219 Days: Lessons from a First Year Administrator
As of the publish date of this post, I have been alive for 13,738 days. Of that time, 219 days have been spent as a junior high Assistant Principal. That’s only 1.6% of my life. However, as I reflect back on that short amount of time, I think there are some small, yet precious gold nuggets that we can all mine out. Here are a few of them:
219 days of listening:
If you want to be a great leader, be a great listener.
I have struggled much of my adult life (and probably childhood too) with the skill of being an intentional, active listener. Over the past several years, as I became more acutely aware of this flaw in myself, I have worked hard to refine this skill. Being an adept listener is likely at the top of every strong leader’s list. If this is an area of struggle for you like it has been for me, may I suggest a few tips that I have picked up along the way?
*Put your phone away. No one feels heard when you’re glancing at your last text, shopping on Amazon, or Snapchatting your BFFL.
*Focus on no one (and nothing) else. Look at, not through or around, the person who you’re (supposed to be) listening to.
*Hear what they’re saying. Don’t process what you’re planning to respond with. Just listen.
*When meeting someone for the first time, repeat their name back to them when they introduce themselves. “Nice to meet you, Mr. Jackson. My name is Slim Shady.” But probably don’t introduce yourself as “Slim Shady.” Unless, of course, that’s your real name…then we have a whole different issue.
*As my favorite leadership guru, John Maxwell, puts it, “There is no quicker way to earn respect as a leader than being slow to speak. It’s called listening…”
219 days of asking questions:
Ask questions. Even the ones you think may be dumb. It is ok to not know what to do. We simply can’t stay “not knowing what to do.” Find another admin on your campus and ask questions. If you are not comfortable asking anyone on your campus, use your professional PLN on Twitter (then find someone on your campus who you can be comfortable asking). We all need to surround ourselves with people who are smarter than we are (see: next point).
219 days of smarter people:
This one’s fairly easy. Spend time around people who are smarter than you and revisit my first point. If you’re not connected to a PLN (Professional Learning Network) on Twitter, here are some awesome “eduleaders” whom I have a great deal of respect for:
219 days of daily GOOD convos with students:
Because of the nature of the Assistant Principal role, there can be a bit of an uphill battle when it comes to building positive, healthy relationships with students. I’ve worked diligently this year to have more encouraging convos than corrective convos with my students. No one likes to feel constantly beaten down by talk of what they could be doing better. The building up has to happen too and it MUST outweigh the not-so-fun stuff. Eat lunch with various groups of students. Visit them in their classrooms. Call them to your office and make a parent phone call…for a GOOD reason. If we want our corrective convos to hold any restorative weight at all, we must build a healthy bond through the positive ones first.
219 days of growing in empathy:
Get to know your students and staff. Ask questions about them that don’t pertain to school/work. Learn what makes them feel valued and act on what you are able to. Don’t be overbearing but dig into their world. Let them know you care. Celebrate the good. Jump in the trenches with them things get tough. Hurt with them when there’s sorrow.
A lifestyle of keeping my focus on something greater than myself:
I live my life as a husband, daddy, and educator for more than just mere satisfaction, pats on the back, and the huge paycheck (riiiiight). I view these three areas as callings placed on my life and will never be my best if I’m not leaning on someone greater than myself. MY strength, endurance, and willpower only take me so far. My eyes must remain on Jesus at all times and all costs. If I lose sight of this, everything I do becomes mechanical and unemotional with no real reason to keep going. So, I’ll keep my focus where it is, keep pressing on, continue growing, and give the glory to the One to whom it belongs.
Tags: Administration, Empathy, Growth, Listening